I’m writing and rewriting this post even moments after having a full-fledged meltdown (crocodile tears and all) about this six letter word that sends literal chills down my spine every time I hear it. I’ve learned in my life so far that a strategy that works the best for me when walking through something I’m struggling with is writing about it. So here it is:
Change. It’s uncomfortable. The dictionary definition of change is “to make or become different.” Why does the word “different” feel so awkward and stretching? If you’re an old friend, you might know that I proclaimed 2019 was the year of “no fear” for me. I felt the Lord tugging on my heart to take risks, and do things WAY outside of my comfort zone. A few of those things included doing a missions internship in the Dominican Republic over the summer, starting my first ever salary-paying job as a 7th grade writing teacher, and even something as wild and crazy as working up the nerve to have a “DTR” (define the relationship) conversation with my best friend, and now boyfriend. 🙂 Obviously that went well.
So far in 2020, I’m seeing the fruit of my boldness because of the infamously terrifying six letter word, “change.” Although I DID start a new career in 2019, I also moved back into my parent’s home in August. I wanted to save up and prepare myself financially for what the Lord has for me in the coming years. Seemed like a smart decision… WAS a smart decision. I truly don’t regret it at all. All of that to say, even in the newness, there was still this comfort that I would always have my family to come home to at the end of the day.
But what would happen if I did something completely new? What if EVERYTHING changed?
Ever since I was a little girl I’ve struggled with the idea of change. One of my parents’ favorite stories to tell is about me and an old couch (and matching love seat) we had. The ugliest plaid couch you’ve ever laid eyes on used to sit in our living room, and when the spirit of Chip and Joanna Gaines began to reside inside of mom and dad, those couches had to go. But regardless of how ugly they were, I LOVED those couches. I had so many memories attached to them. I could not IMAGINE letting them go. When they broke the news to me, I did, in fact, cry my eyes out. (Crocodile tear style, once again.)Â Something about getting rid of the old and bringing in the new just didn’t sit right with me.
As silly as that is, it’s still something I struggle with to this day. Not so much the couch — I’m over that now — but this concept of things CHANGING.
When I STARTED writing this post about six weeks ago at my favorite coffee house in February, I don’t think I (or a single one of you) had mentally prepared for a global pandemic. When I felt the Lord pressing on me to write this post about change I had no idea that the way society functioned as we know it was going to change course completely in a matter of weeks. I went from being the busiest person I know to being stuck at home seven days a week. (To my fellow seven’s on the Enneagram test – when I say I feel you right now, know that I FEEL you!) Anyways – let me back track for a moment.
As things got busy that day in February, I closed my laptop and left the post alone. I had small groups that night and class the next day. I had lesson plans due, essays to grade, and somehow in the midst of it, this post got shoved to the side.
Now, only weeks later, life looks completely different. I post a weekly lesson in Google Classroom on Mondays, and reply to student emails throughout the day as they come, but truly, on an hourly basis, my days are more free. In February I went from one thing to the next, hour by hour, every single day. I taught for 8 hours, would drive to East for small groups, would drive home and host a Bachelor watch party. Tuesdays, I’d teach for 8 hours, come home, grade papers, run to the gym, make dinner/meal prep, grade more, sleep. Wednesdays, teach 8 hours, go to the church, volunteer for youth service, go to Chick-Fil-A (a classic Wednesday night staple), go home. You get the gist – BUSY, BUSY, BUSY. Moving non-stop. And now, a complete change of pace.
Technically speaking, this should be my nightmare. My ACTUAL living hell. But somehow, in the midst of THIS change, the Lord has helped me find rest.
I began to dive deep into the Scripture, and the Lord starting reminding me of some stories and some people who faced change pretty heavily.
The first, sweet Mary herself. Yep, you know the one. The virgin woman who on a casual day is confronted by an angel and told ever so graciously, “Congratulations! You’re a pregnant virgin! BUT WAIT – THERE’S MORE! You’re not only pregnant, your baby is… THE MESSIAH!” Can you imagine? I feel for this girl. How she handled the situation with so much grace still amazes me. I think if it were me, I would’ve had a stern talking to with God, and maybe even said a few cuss words. But not Mary. In the midst of her season of change (and a pretty dramatic one at that), she trusted God. She recognized that it was happening whether she was on board or not, and she had faith. I want to be more like Mary.
The second, one of my favorite biblical royals, Queen Esther. That girl was forced to marry a man who WAS TRYING TO KILL HER PEOPLE. Can you imagine just living your normal day, being chosen as a prospect for the King, and then finding out you were CHOSEN… oh, and also that he plans to kill everyone you love. Holy Moly. Talk about a change of pace. And yet, Esther trusted God even though her life was at risk, and did something she likely never had expected herself to do only months before. Talk about change being scary…
The last one I’ll remind you of is a hot topic of conversation at the moment, given the Easter season. My dear friends, the disciples. Imagine walking through life with Jesus, learning from him, praying with him, fishing with him, just simply doing life with him, and then you find yourself at dinner. Your mentor, the Messiah, and one of your best friends, casually slips into conversation that this is your last supper together until Heaven. EXCUSE me? I think I would’ve spit my wine across the table. I won’t credit the disciples with having the smooooothest response to this change, but given the circumstances, I can understand.
Sometimes I feel a little bit like Peter. I start to feel really confident that I’ll handle change well, and before I know it I’ve lied to myself, and I’m having a full fledged meltdown.
Here’s what I’m learning: change can be beautiful, it can be unexpected, it can be messy, and it can also be hard. But one thing I’ve become certain of is this: you’ll never grow anywhere unless you move. Change requires a step. It requires recognizing that what you’re experiencing or about to experience is going to be new and difficult and stretching and it’s choosing to move forward regardless.
I don’t know what change looks like for you right now. Maybe it means taking a step and choosing to find joy in the little things (even in quarantine). Maybe it means preparing for a change in location. Maybe it means ending a relationship. Maybe it means starting a new one. Maybe it means forgiving your sister, or trying a healthier lifestyle. Maybe it means finally putting your focus and time into that business you’ve been wanting to start.
Whatever the case, whatever the change, whether it be planned, or as unexpected as the change this virus caused — fear. not. (I am speaking this over myself, as well).
Jeremiah 29:11 says, “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'”
This is certain: no change in your life will ever come as a surprise to Him. Every plan, every change of plan, He knew. Find rest in that today.
He. Has. Got. You.
With love,
Madison